In the previous blog post, Joy Joy Joy, I talk of how I woke up so depressed. I had just received some news that threw me off track. I was in a funk and honestly, I did not know how to get out of it but yes the small things do matter and being grateful for what I have.
But I was also introduced to self-care this year. I mean yes I have known about it but I hadn’t been practising it intentionally. Really life is all about intentionality,creating a spa life.
I know it is difficult to do this, well at least for me, it is especially with how life is these days. There are so many needs and everyone wants a piece of you however if you do not look after yourself and then you break down, who will be there for your loved ones? Putting yourself first puts them first.
And how do you do this? It is all about self-care. What is self-care? Verywell mind describes Self-care as a conscious act one takes in order to promote their own physical, mental and emotional health. Unfortunately, many of us consider this a luxury yet it is most necessary. We need to care for ourselves in five different areas- physical, emotional, spiritual, mental and social.
It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.”Mandy Hals
Physical self-care is all about taking care of your body so that it runs efficiently. This entails how you are feeding yourself so your eyes need to be on your nutrition. Get the veggies in. How are you moving? You need to exercise, whatever works for you but get your body moving and of course,, make all the dental and medical appointments. And SLEEP- it may be difficult but you need to sleep at least 8 hours. Girl, stay on top of your health!
Social self-care: this is about your relationships with family and friends. With the ongoing pandemic, it has been hard meeting up and going for the brunches and lady lunches. We have to shift the way we are now doing it. Call. Talk to your friends. Have zoom meetups with your salad by your side. Go old school and write a letter. Create different and unique ways to nurture your relationships. Just because you cannot meet them doesn’t mean you can’t talk to them. Mmhhh I think it is time for a WhatsApp call of over an hour.
Mental self-care is about doing things that keep you mentally healthy. This is very important for your psychological well-being. There are various ways you can do to go about this which includes puzzles, chess, reading a book or watching a movie. I love books but I must admit I haven’t been reading books that I enjoy reading like fiction- romance, thriller, fantasy. Eeehhh this week, I am getting a book. Any recommendations?
Spiritual self-care. We are spiritual beings whether we like to admit it or not and we need to care for that aspect of our lives no matter our religion. This is anything that helps in developing a deeper sense of meaning. It can be meditation or prayer. Practices that get you thinking about your life. That slow down the hustle and bustle around your life. I recently started meditating and I can tell you it was hard keeping still for a minute. Aayyii my mind was racing with so many thoughts but I am glad to say that I am now up to five minutes
Emotional self-care. This looks at how you deal with challenges in your life like anxiety and stress that come up. I know we tend to want to be the strong one but we need to be able to express our feelings as raw as they are and incorporate activities that make you feel better.
Keep calm and make a self-care plan.Unknown
The Spa Life-A Self-care Routine
So earlier, I had said it was about intentionality. It is for real!! When I started these 100 days/12 weeks of #GlowUp Challenge, I kinda just jumped into it and learnt along the way but now four weeks in, I realised I had to create a routine otherwise I would never incorporate anything so I created a daily morning and night self-care routine, a weekly routine and a monthly routine
My daily routine in the morning involves waking up at Five AM- I exercise for thirty minutes, Then have my date time with JC aka Jesus for thirty minutes. So that takes me till about Six AM. Then I follow the Miracle Morning Routine SAVERS so Silence where I meditate for five mins, Affirmations for five mins, Visualization for another five mins, E is exercise but since I would have done that already, I skip to R which is Reading.
I am finalising the September book- Lady in Waiting for 20 mins but let’s be honest- it goes for more time and S which is Scribe- Writing where I write anything for twenty mins so all this gets me to seven AM where I then have a hot shower with all my bath and body works products coming out smelling like a flower garden. Haha
My night routine starts at about Eight PM where I have a shower with my spa products but before I go for the shower, I set the mood in my room. I light my vanilla scented candle and put on calming piano music. After my shower, I pray about the day and for business, then I pick up my journal where I read my affirmations and also write what I am grateful for the day. Lights out is supposed to be at Nine PM. It will find me in bed but well…most often than not, ill fall asleep about 10 PM.
My weekly self-care takes place on Sunday. It is all about Business Garage- an online business conversation done by Worship Harvest every Sunday at 7.30 Am EAT. Haha! Yes, I really want to grow my business and it makes me happy to learn how to do so.
After that, I basically just relax and do whatever I want till about 2 pm where I have a weekly review with my accountability partner, Marie.
Then I like to embark on my Artist Dates. Julia Cameron, author of The Artist’s Way came up with this. She describes it as “assigned fun.” The Artist Date is a once-weekly, festive, solo expedition to explore something that interests you. The Artist Date need not be overtly artistic” — think mischief more than mastery. Artist Dates fire up the imagination. They spark whimsy. They encourage play. Since art is about the play of ideas, they feed our creative work by replenishing our inner well of images and inspiration. When choosing an Artist Date, it is good to ask yourself, “what sounds fun?” — and then allow yourself to try it.
So far, I have watched a whimsical series- The Good Witch. This Sunday, I am going to my favourite bookstore Aristoc to browse through and of course have a lemon mint sorbet just for just. Thats what self-care is all about.
The monthly self-care entails SPA SPA SPA!! hahah. I love the spa. It just makes me happy. So I have the whole shebang- massage,pedicure,manicure and body scrub or steam bath. I really look forward to this day. It makes me come alive and ready for the next month coz I usually have it on the last weekend of the month.
It is all about caring for yourself. Create your own spa life!
In all this and it doesn’t matter what you do, do you put yourself first? Do you care about you to know that you need to care for yourself?